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February 28th, 2010

someone on formspring asked me this question:

you used to have a promise ring and be religious. you seem to be somewhat promiscuous and not sure of your true self based on always changing your looks and i believe studying sociology is an outlet to learn more about yourself. what happened to you?

This was my response:

Let me address this pseudo-question/comment through several bullet points:
1-I no longer feel the need to live my life based on the assumption that actions that I take that do no wrong to others will condemn me to a terrible after-life. In other words, I don't believe having sex will doom me to a hell I don't acknowledge. Maybe I am wrong, but as far as I know and can guarantee, I have this one life, and I am going to enjoy it.
2- Promiscuous by whose standards? You aren't going to slut-shame me; I refuse. I stand behind all of my decisions; I own them, they're mine. I don't believe we should stigmatize anyone's sexual activity, as long as it is consensual.
3-I use protection and choose my sexual partners carefully. I like fucking and I like or in the case of Jake, love, who I fuck. That isn't to say those who have random hook-ups or one night stands should be ashamed. Embrace your sexual identity!
4-I am sure of myself. Get on the bandwagon or fuck off. Learning how to love myself is hard, but that doesn't mean I don't know who I am.
5-True self? Maybe I define myself by terms other than what I look on the outside? Or maybe my changing looks are attached to my definition of my true self?
6-This is my true self: I have a real sense of injustice that literally causes me chest pain. THAT'S why I am in sociology. I believe social change is possible and necessary and I intent to pursue it with everything I have. I am a humanist. I believe in the goodness of humans and in human potential. I believe in accepting people as they choose to present themselves; this is why I love tattoos and piercings and dying my hair. I believe in doing what is best for yourself while acknowledging and limiting how those decisions impact others. I believe in loving what you do and doing what you love. I believe in having fun and laughing and crying and staying in tune with your emotions.

But you're right, I'm definitely not sure of my "true self".
7. Also, have you ever heard of David Hume, the Scottish philosopher? He had this idea about self called "bundle theory" that explains that individuals are defined by their believes and that any person is an amalgam of all of their ideas and thoughts. I subscribe to this idea. That means if your opinions change, so do you. I don't believe in some universal idea of any one individual. That is to say then that Haley Gentile could be anyone or anything at any time, and its only a label for a collection of beliefs. All of us are this way.
8- What happened to me? Ha, I love it!

January 21st, 2010

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I still love Jake and I hope he still knows that.

In other news I have an "aggregated kidney infection" on top of Zoloft. All of my body hurts and aches. I'm in a terrible slump.

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January 8th, 2010

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my wisdom teeth are killing me and my allergies are driving me crazy. im about to pop some percoset and a sudafed and sleep until i cant sleep anymore.

January 7th, 2010

AH HA!

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" If your body is chronically stressed for whatever reason, (the stress bucket runneth over), be it emotional, work or relationship stress, financial stress, chronic pain or disease, chronically poor nutrition, inadequate sleep, inadequate or too much exercise, a fungus or parasite problem, chemical or heavy metal toxicity, or any combination of the above, your parasympathetic nervous system, the rest and repair system that is in charge of digestion is turned down, and your sympathetic system (fight or flight) system is turned up. This means that blood is diverted away from the gut, and if this happens chronically, the body has a very hard time digesting food. This leads to poor absorption of nutrition, and a very unhappy stomach, intestine and colon. Stress, as shown in the example above, also can affect intestinal motility, in some showing up as the runs, often in anticipation of a big event, and in others as constipation if there is poor coordination between the small and large intestine."

This could explain my excruciating pain I have been experiencing in my lower stomach every day since the cruise.

January 6th, 2010

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I am making myself sick. I'm entering that sort of sick emotional cocoon where I shield myself with tears. I am done drinking. Seriously. I have to be, or I'll drive myself fucking mad.

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December 9th, 2009

"I'm reading it from your book due"

December 8th, 2009

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So guess who got two hours of sleep?
And guess who, after she finished her paper at 2 am, couldn't fall asleep, so she went for a walk, and then restlessly slept for a couple of hours, and then woke up again, went on another walk and sat on Landis Green until 7 am?
In a related note, guess who is NEVER DRINKING COFFEE AGAIN?
In a secondarily related note, guess who brushed her hair with a fork and then tried to place it in her toiletries drawer?


After I meet with my professor at 10 am, I am passing out until my body rejects the notion of sleep.
Needless to say, I am not highly functional right now. I would not permit myself to drive a car.

December 4th, 2009

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ready? I AM FORCING MYSELF TO GO STUDY RIGHT NOW

December 1st, 2009

Catching up on the blogs

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http://www.feministe.us/blog/archives/2009/11/16/in-defense-of-douchebag/
A feminist's perspective on the use of the word douchebag. My heart is smiling, though I must admit, in this case, that I am a shameless abuser of the word 'dick' as an insult.
In other news, my finals begin Monday. I am struggling to find motivation today, which is really just a sickening excuse to watch the 20/20 Rihanna interview and read web comics when I should be outlining chapters for Race, Ethnicity and Nationality in the United States. I swear, as soon as I finish listening to the current iTunes playlist, I will finish my readings, and begin compiling a study guide.
I finalized my schedule for next semester. I had to drop Intro to Urban Planning and Development because it coincided with my required natural science (one of the few state university liberal studies classes my IB diploma did not allow me to elect out of). I will take it nextnext semester. As an African American Studies major I must select a concentration, and as I am particularly interested in residential segregation it seems as good a choice as any. Plus, one of the required classes is Collective Decisions, which causes my sociological sensors to whirl into motion! Anyhoo, I will be taking:
African American Children (I'll be the first to acknowledge the double entendre...ah ha ha..taking African American children...oy)
Sociological Theory
Methods of Social Research
Intro to Brain and Behavior (said natural science-it's the only psych class that qualifies)
Honors Seminar: Social Deviance
If you are still in school, what are you taking this upcoming semester? Hell, what are you taking this semester?


I am so antsy for my film professor to provide with feedback on my Teeth paper! I can't wait to expand it. I seriously have delusions of this summer being full of Census work, rape-revenge films and my loving boyfriend.

Speaking of which, WHY ISN'T WINTER BREAK HERE YET?
I miss the feeling of a normalized relationship. I miss the feeling that our time together is not an event. I miss watching tv together with his head in my lap; I miss the days of nothing. I can't wait for this break so that Jake and I can just enjoy each other's company.

Also, I am slowly realizing I am addicted to gum chewing. Seriously. I crave it. CRAVE IT.

November 24th, 2009

update

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my life as of late has been hectic. the past five weekends i have been out of town, away from tallahassee. first orlando, then gainesville, then chicago, then philly and then atlanta. i feel as if i have been letting school slide. all of my grades are still fine, and i have been turning everything in on time, i just havent been feeling that spark of growth that can come with learning. i need to refocus, and again, stop drinking. it isn't good that the last few posts on here all read that: "i should stop drinking", but really i ought to. it's expensive, it takes away time i could be productive (both while i am drinking, and then while i am recovering) and it necessitates damage control. i dont want to spend every sunday morning tracking down those i have offended with a loose tongue or worry that i made a fool out of myself. it's quite gross actually that the person i am while drinking, and the person i am the rest of the time are so divergent. i don't think i have a problem, but i think i could be headed down a path that ends abruptly in a problem. alcohol is so smooth in that way. i think i can use it to relax, to feel comfortable, to connect with those i wouldnt otherwise, and instead it causes the small me that lives inside to hollow a path further, deeper within, until that small me cant hear the external world at all. until i am just an impression of myself that i once knew. that being said, i feel as if everything after today is headed upward.
tomorrow i return from fsu to cape coral to see my family, and jake, and his family. i am bringing some work with me for studying time, because at a stress buster social i went to yesterday evening (ah the joys of dorm living) they suggested short study times over break will ease the transition into finals. hopefully ill get a chance to skate this weekend as well, since i have missed the past two weeks of derby. first my tattoo was fresh, and then i have been out of town.
yesterday i turned in a film paper about Teeth, and my professor suggested i expand it into a larger thesis paper, covering rape-revenge films as a whole, with an intent of it being published. i found my summer project! i am also going to try and get a job with the census in cape coral. making $12 an hour, and doing an activity that will make me a better sociologist? ACE. but, really, how funny would it be if my first published paper was in a field that i do not intend to pursue? hahaha

welllllll, that is all i suppose.
ohhhh lookie, i still have green hair:
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November 8th, 2009

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Realistic Rose and text )

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this was a bitch,
but so worth it.

October 29th, 2009

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I have decided to be enid coleslaw for halloween as my sylvia plath costume is kind of destroyed.

October 18th, 2009

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i am so glad jessica is here or my head would explode

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The only person responsible for my actions is me. I cannot continue to insulate myself within my own insecurities and unrequested feelings (how easy is it to succumb to wills we didn't ask for) and shed the blame. I need to stop drinking. I don't very often, but when I do, I say things I shouldn't, I cry (I was just getting over my proclivity for tears too!), I get upset...not everything should be said. Somethings should addressed internally before I allow the world to see. I am so tired all the time, but this weather is refreshing. Despite small failings, I am still so happy here. I miss Jake endlessly. My best friend lives a thousand miles away, and I don't know when that gap will close. But even this is no longer an excuse to be bitter or sad or fitful or whatever else emotion I attach to it. I stay with Jake because I can't not be with him, and I need to allow the negative to fade into love.

Overall, I am very excited for this week. Monday is Do the Right Thing showing for my Multicultural Film class (speaking of which i am thinking about minoring in film studies (interdisciplinary humanities)), Art Brut at the Union on Wednesday and Rocky Horror on Friday. Then Saturday Jess and I are headed to Orlando and I get to see Kelsey and Devin! Plus derby is tonight! And Wednesday night! And free skate on Tuesday! I earned my first bruise on Tuesday last week. I love it.

Off to read "Racism Without Racists"!

October 2nd, 2009

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I need to realign my priorities. I have so much fun with my newfound friends, but studying needs to come first. That's why I am embarking on a quest to not leave my room or a study area until all of my work is done. I am just not as productive when it is midnight, after a movie and I return to my work.

Speaking of movies, I have been seeing about two a week on average. Last night I attended an advanced screening of Zombieland, and I loved it. It made me jump (the surprises always get me as the people sitting near me in the theater can attest), laugh, and grimace. Tonight I am going to see a film print of American Psycho in the Student Life Center on campus. I hope to see Whip It! and Jennifer's Body soon.

I have become very impatient recently, and annoyed easily. I am almost positive this has two roots: 1)being selfish is easier than incorporating others into your life on both of your terms and 2) I have been experiencing the crazy adventures of birth control and the impact of hormones on emotion. I am going to work toward being more aware of others' needs and feelings and also hopefully the mail will have delivered the next pack of pills my mom shipped, so this prolonged period can be cut off.

I have already selected my class schedule for the upcoming semester. I sign up for courses on October 12th!

I miss Jake insanely. I am pushing through optimism, holding on to love with a closed fist. I know I can't sink back to where I was last fall. I think that is why I have been spending so much time with other people, and filling up my day, because I feel lonely. My best friend and partner lives a thousand miles away, geez.

All in all, I am happy, with the exception of the past day or so, ha. It is hard to cope with the idea that my childhood is over. I am a child, still, and I don't know to accept that I can't be.
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September 16th, 2009

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I AM FREAKING OUT.

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i understand why they say college can be the best years of your life.

i am not claiming it yet, but i can relate.

i think i might be making friends? as if people would refer to me by the term "friend"! this is very exciting to me. and the politics of friendship are so diluted here. all the things i hated about secondary education is absolved here. this weekend kelsey is coming to tallahassee for a mun conference. i am so happy. i have missed having her around! but i do love jess, and i am so glad she is here. otherwise, i probably wouldnt have any girl friends. ha. the guys i have met here are fantastic. i love film buffs!

though uchicago could have provided me with opportunities that are perhaps beyond what i could be introduced to here at FSU, and i miss jake greatly, i think there is direction in my time here. i think here i can make a way for myself without conforming to the core, or dealing with fierce competition for sociological research positions, or the extreme cold. i dont want to say i believe things happen for a reason, because i dont necessarily believe that, but i do know that (or believe i guess) that when something happens i can ascribe reasoning to it to explain away the errors and unexpected moments. and the meaning i am applying to my attendance of fsu is OPPORTUNITY.


now i have to head out to sociology of race and minority relations.
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